More about Booking
Respect my time and energy and need for clear consent and communication, at least to the best of your ability. If you are writing on behalf of a couple or group, all of you need to screen and be a part of negotiation. If I say no without a counter-offer, there is no go-around: it's not an invitation to push or try to find a loophole, but a boundary.
References are necessary for folks who want to jump into edge play to start- they help me verify your experience level and better my safety plan for stunts. Deposits are mandatory for all first bookings and sometimes for later bookings as well.
You may want your first time to be at a House of Domination with multiple providers to choose from: a reference from a well-established House or Domme is an asset while you are looking around for the right provider and collecting experiences and helps a lot with screening.
I need to know you are willing to communicate when it's important by you telling me a few things you like and don't like, essentially practicing yes/no and earning my trust. Be careful getting stuck on any one particular need for a session: of course it's wonderful when everything aligns but be willing to pivot: losing time to anger and frustration can be as much of a time-suck as keeping on something that isn't aligning that day. Do not send multiple emails or one-liner/ chat-style emails : it does the opposite of what you intend and puts you at the end of my email queue.
It's not unusual to have strong feelings after sending an intro, but acting on those feelings towards me by sending multiple emails or building up a narrative that involves my actively ignoring you will sabotage playing. I write a bit about feels on my Consent + Understanding page because they really can catch people offguard. I send out pre-play tips and infos after bookings are made. I also generally check in with folks a day or two after playing to see how they are doing so there is space and advice for these things along the way.
If you don't hear back from me say, in 3-4 days, then yes, send another message, but generally I'm just immersed in scenes, or my own aftercares and waiting for my capacity to return or to get back to my computer. If you can't dial it back when I need you, to or we really can't get on the same page I may offer a 'Cool Your Jets' period after which we can try again from scratch.
One of the most common questions asked about a session is what exactly will happen? I can't say for sure. A first session is when we figure out what each others words and actions mean, and when I first meet your body for the most part. I may sketch out vague ideas for but there is always room to pivot, even with big stunt days with experienced subs. Experience solo playing or playing online doesn't always translate to experience that helps you 'endure or advance' in activities in person any faster, which can surprise people.
Sessions generally start with a check in before serious role play or protocol, to see how your body is doing, if there are any changes we need to make to the boundaries of the session. The first few moments of playing may feel longer as you find your focus, but generally people settle in to play fairly shortly afterward without snags. I only play with things that we discussed, but you can read more about that on my consent page. I do expect you to use safe words and comms to express when something is going sideways for you in a way that you aren't up for (to the best of your ability).
