I’m a queer experience collector and sensation slut with multiple creative outlets and an interesting collection of skills. I enjoy many things and get excited while learning, exploring and experimenting so I’ve made a lot of time for it, including being a professional sex nerd for many years. Folks tend to be relieved and very confused by my “Canadian friendliness” outside of sessions and negotiations or by hearing my accent come out on occasion. I try to balance being an indoor and an outdoor cat so-to-speak, prioritizing extended adventures with immersive or unknown terrain, puzzle-tasks or physical challenges as deep in the trees as I can get that day.
Other things that I enjoy:
Shared human experiences
Thru-Hiking
Cycling
Saunas, Float tanks, Parasailing like things
Camping
Food + Cooking
Classes + Learning
Volunteering time for community needs
Bird- Ogling
Plant ID
Reading
Clowning
Festivals
Dressing Up
Crafting
Libraries
Waste Reduction/ Recycling
Live Music
Craft Beer + Coffee
Farmers Markets
Being off-grid
Immersing myself in experiences where I know nothing
Immersing myself in places where I can’t understand anything
Getting lost on purpose
Taking the long way on purpose
Learning from skilled individuals
Embracing weirdness
Making the best of curveballs
I am the type of person who fully supports 'trying all the things': keeping an open mind about what intimacy, arousal, touch and even sex can look like, I believe, is key to working with our bodies, curiosities and desires as they change over time to get the most out of 'opportunities we have left', making time for immersive sensory experiences outside of our homes and norms. I’m queer, pansexual/queer and a relationship anarchist who has had a multitude of different shapes of relationships and interactions (professionally and otherwise to learn from over the years): of course BDSM, general queerness, neurodivergent loved ones all give us opportunities to expand on our understanding of each other’s needs, and bring the gift of practice communicating those needs.
The pandemic put a halt to my kinky play and touch explorations for 2 years, likewise the usual ways that I'd balance life's chaos. I hopped around at the beginning learning from solo individuals stuck at home and managed to spend some time living in a bunkee playing with soils, showering in the rain and expanding on my distance and winter hiking skills/ experiences. After those years away I settled back into the city, putting together a new play studio and returning to offering sessions after three covid vaccines. I'm very glad to be able to have returned to kinky play: I missed it dearly and am absolutely - as many of us are- grateful for the pockets we can make for ourselves as adults to play and experiment. I lean into that at most opportunities- we have to make the time! There's so much we can't control and so many things in this life are temporary: me must savour, play + make that time.
This is also probably the best place to say that I know my queerness does not overshadow my white privilege. Some of the toys I use in BDSM have historically been used against marginalized people or animals in horrible ways. I've reclaimed some words that have been harmful as powerful for myself that not everyone will agree with: Queer being a very important one for me. I have absolutely used old-school "kink industry words" in the past that I wouldn't touch now, but traces of that time may still exist online in places that can no longer be edited. Many of my ancestors were French and did absolutely horrifying things. I try to give back by regularly volunteering with things related to protection of land, water or food security. I pick up garbage and plastics on all of my hikes and try to reduce the plastics I purchase, but donate food in plastic packaging so being trash-free is a bit out of reach for me right now. What I'm trying to say is, I'm trying, and I hope those of you who want to go deep with join me in that.
