I’m a queer experience collector and sensation slut with multiple creative outlets and an interesting collection of skills. You may remember me from being naked on the internet in the days of Napster, my years as a wrestling Villain on DVDs sold in the mail, or my gonzo Craiglist/ Backpages ads from the early aughts (those were the days).

I was that chick in high school with the dyed hair + docs, dipping between sensory-seeking subcultures, eating up the experiences and community at a time where most alt folks were at least a little gay or cat least comfortable with cuddle puddles, attending orgies and serving or being served (sometimes sensually or sexually) by androgenous strangers with a variety of bodies and beautiful names. This was also a time when regular sex was scary af and make-outs were radical acts. Finding ways to be slutty with people we loved who needed different shapes of touch and arousal were ways of resistance. Kink (and dancing til dawn, and circus stuff, and fire stuff ++) was what we needed; power dynamics and sensory overwhelm and loving was healing and hot and sloppy.

That drive to collect sensations and experiment in every way is in my core, and my frustration at how boring mainstream sex was, how thrilling BDSM, kink and fetishes were for me, how loving the open relationships were, how sweet watching people play and fuck was, brought me to Toronto as a ProDomme in the early aughts just in time for the last slice of a certain wave of fetish parties. From there I toured as a Domme, Wrestler + Model doing weird + sexy stuff in cities and parks around North America and that was a blast. Til the Pandemic I never bothered having my own dungeon/ wrestling space for long because I was barely in the town: I loved the variety of spaces we had for renting at the time to choose the right amount of natural light and ceiling height for the scene.  I’m considering returning to less gear / more Canadian travel in the next few years and slowly pivoting back to that vibe: I have certain toys on my wishlists to create a new generation (for me) of play party/ kinky adventure bags.

For those who weren’t following me online during my heavy touring period, I would pop into a city/ town knowing a few weirdos, but intentionally put myself in immersive situations and allow other people to give me suggestions on where to start learning- leaving a little bit of room for folks to help you and tell you their favourite things has taught me so much and led to an enormous number of interesting experiences. Extended stays in small towns,  short stays on bare pieces of land building community resources taught me a lot about myself, about communication/ miscommunication, harm reduction + informed consent, ranges of human needs and delights and more.

I am the type of person who fully supports 'trying all the things': keeping an open mind about what intimacy, arousal, touch and even sex can look like, I believe, is key to working with our bodies, curiosities and desires as they change over time to get the most out of 'opportunities we have left', making time for immersive sensory experiences outside of our homes and norms. Our cravings don’t always make sense, our interactions are nuanced, not everything needs to be healing or comfortable- in fact I think people should spend more time with restrictions or discomfort- those that don’t have those things dealt to them earlier on in life. Flow states away from screens, delayed gratification, stillness bring strength and power. Sometimes we all need something big to help us reset, and the controlled chaos of kink is a fabulous tool for that when you have a safety person handy (me).

One of my favourite resets is spending long periods of time outside. I try my best to fight “same four wall syndrome”- our brains need different stimuli and baselines of sound than just machine hums and fluorescents. During the pandemic I pushed my skills to the next level for distance hiking and winter hikes with beautiful flavourful snacks and kicked my ass and it was fabulous. We have to make the time to savour, play, and remind ourselves we are strong and capable with these sorts of things.

Aside from being the kind of person who will try a lot of things twice, I do have hobbies and interests outside of sensory curation and bl0odletting, sheesh!

My other interests:

  • Shared human experiences

  • Thru-Hiking

  • Cycling

  • Saunas,

  • Kayaking

  • Camping

  • Cooking Outside

  • Bouldering

  • Birdwatching

  • Plant ID

  • Reading stacks

  • Clowning

  • Festivals

  • Dressing Up

  • Crafting

  • Libraries

  • Puzzles

  • Waste Reduction/ Recycling

  • Live Music

  • Craft Beer + Coffee

  • Farmers Markets

  • Being off-grid

  • Immersing myself in experiences where I know nothing

  • Immersing myself in places where I can’t understand anything

  • Getting lost on purpose

  • Taking the long way on purpose

  • Learning from skilled individuals

  • Embracing weirdness

  • Making the best of curveballs